Weird, disgusting facts about sex

Weird, disgusting facts about sex (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

We know sex is amazing, but there are certain things that can give you a creepy feeling about sex.
Unlike in movies, real life sex can be embarrassing at times, and can even lead to sexual mishaps. As part of the animal kingdom, we human beings have sex like the way other animals do. If you imagine the biological things that happen to our body during sex, you will definitely find it absolutely disgusting.

From strange noises to dirty kissing, sex can be awkward, funny, and to say the least, gross. So, brace yourself as we list a few weird facts that might put you off sex for a while.

Why kissing is so dirty: When you kiss your partner's mouth you are almost passing bacteria to each other's mouths. It's a fact that there are around five hundred types of bacteria in our mouth, and about fifty per cent of them are present in our tongue. So be careful when you bite your partner's tongue. At the end of the day, French kiss is a gross thing to do.

Millions of sex a day: Believe it or not, everyday about 100 million couples around the world have sex. That means around 65,000 couples are having sex right now. So if you imagine the sheer intensity of the sexual activity, you are sure to find it gross. It might seem like the earth is shaking under your feet.

Naked bodies make noises: While having sex your bodies rub against each other, and start to sweat, get sticky and even make strange noises. Maybe sex with clothes on is a more hygienic idea.

Vagina could stink: For those who like oral sex, here is bad news for you. If not washed regularly vagina can smell bad, and cause yeast infection. Hence, making the prospect of sex during periods all the more messy.

After sex is a mess: After orgasm, most people always land up in the bathroom rather than just roll over and go to sleep. And also you have to clean up your messy bed or may even have to change the whole bedding. In this case, women do most of the cleaning. After all, ejaculation is a messy business.

Sex after meal sucks: How do couples have sex after a romantic dinner? It could be one of the grossest things to do. Imagine, sex between burps. Sex isn't fun when your mouth stinks, and when your stomach is full. Now, if you are having sex only to burn calories, then it's a different thing altogether.

If you have ever had any such gross feelings about sex, do share them with us.

5 Things men fear about sex

5 Things men fear about sex (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

It's not only women who deal with bedroom fears. Men too are victims. Here are some common fears that make men nervous in bed.
It's commonly believed that men are more sexually active as compared to their female partner. But very often, they too encounter several fears related to their bedroom romp, which can in turn cause doldrums in their sexual relationship.

Fears related to their sexual performance, sex position, ejaculation period, a satisfying orgasm and wild acts in bed often end up killing their passion. With these fears running through their mind, men not only fail to satisfy their female partner, but are unable to enjoy the act themselves.

Chandigarh-based sexologist Dr. Deepak Arora explains, "Men always relate sex and sexuality with their egos and they never want to fail there. This is the biggest fear in them which converts to performance anxiety. This anxiety leads to a man failing to perform well in bed and if their female partner does not have the patience to bear with them, relationship goes for a toss easily."

Relationship counsellor Dr. Gitanjali Sharma adds, "Men need to understand that when it comes to sexual performance, they can't outperform themselves. The urge for performing better each time has to come from within by raising your consciousness to higher levels. And when self satisfaction comes, there is no question of under performing. You have sex for enjoyment and not to perform, under perform or out perform. It's a joy, sheer joy, so shed all your inhibitions and concentrate on the act."

As most male fears revolve around satisfying the female partner, Gitanjali suggests, "Till the time your women is emotionally satisfied, you can easily satisfy her sexual needs. The more emotionally connected you are, the more enjoyable physical intimacy will be. Try and indulge in physical intimacy only when your woman is ready, as it helps creating a comfort zone where she will participate equally. And while having sex, stay calm, relaxed, indulge in foreplay and nothing will stop you from performing the desired way."

Here are some common fears that make men nervous every time they gear up for a steamy romp...

Fear fright # 1: Leaving her unsatisfied
The foremost fear of leaving the female partner unsatisfied has a direct correlation with a male's organ size. While a woman thinks bigger the better, the man keeps worrying about what if he's unable to give the desired pleasure. This fear of not giving their best somewhere triggers a feeling of being an imperfect sex partner, which may even hit a man's ego directly.

Get over it: Dr. Gitanjali Sharma explains, "The fear of not satisfying a women leads to many questions in a man's mind. He starts thinking that will she look for that sexual satisfaction elsewhere and that thought of her being with someone else (because of his under performance) will make him more complex. This is like a vicious cycle, as the more he thinks on this subject, he gets driven by performance anxiety, thus leaving her unsatisfied most of the times. Performance in bed mainly depends on a woman's state of mind at that time. You need to be comfortable with your woman's body to feel a strong connection. Go slow and steady and understand your woman by awakening her sensitive parts rather than worrying about your size."

Fear fright # 2: Premature ejaculation
A gratifying sex quickie is all about giving and receiving pleasure. While men make every efforts to please their female partners, they would, most of the times, remain anxious about their own climax and this fear is driven by the ejaculation period. It's a very common apprehension that men come across where they suffer premature ejaculation due to which they end up spoiling sex.

Get over it: Dr. Arora elucidates, "Medically, if a man is able to hold his ejaculation for at least one minute, he is not a patient of premature ejaculation. But unfortunately very few people know this fact and they are being misguided with fake ads and while watching porn movies, which makes them think that they are unable to have sex for a longer period. This creates a feeling of insecurity about their female partner and the sexual stress mounts, which gets converted into performance anxiety. In most of the cases, the problem practically doesn't exist, but the fear is creating it."

Fear fright # 3: Not getting her pregnant
Though it's not necessary that every sex session should be aimed at getting the woman pregnant, but still men do carry impotency fears in their minds. The continuous worry of not getting a woman pregnant puts men in a serious stigma, which adversely affects their sexual performance.

Get over it: Dr. Arora says, "Having a child is related with both male and female health and destiny too. There are numerous cases where medically everything is normal, but the female is unable to conceive. You should try to have a healthy life style, a proper diet and a positive attitude about yourself. If there is any problem with your semen, it can be treated, so no point worrying about it. The first need is a good sex life, not having a child."

Fear fright # 4: Lacking porn value
It's a normal practice that men watch porn to learn certain sexual acts and then repeat them with their partner. In an attempt to try something new and opt for wild acts, men repeatedly indulge in bringing out the porn elements in their sex life. And many a times, if the female partner is not responding positively, men start feeling that they are lacking somewhere.

Get over it: Dr. Gitanjali says, "Men often compare their sexual performance with porn scenes or with that of their female partner and the fear that they might be less experienced makes them panic. Men should understand that performing in bed has nothing to do with any experience. It's the mental connection with the female partner which can exist even without taking any inspiration from the porn acts."

Fear fright # 5: Masturbation done in the past
Several studies have claimed that masturbation done during one's childhood or adolescent years doesn't impact a person's sex life in his later years. Yet there exists numerous fears attached to the same. Men often blame their masturbation habits for their weak bedroom performance and with this illogical apprehension; they fail to focus on their present sexual acts.

Get over it: Dr. Arora advices, "Masturbation doesn't harm much, but the guilt of masturbating is more harmful, and this is just due to lack of sex education. Every healthy male masturbates many times in his life in various stages of age, there is nothing to worry about."